We came back saying this trip was even better than our honeymoon.
Because honeymoons come with so many expectations and dreams and let’s just be real.
You are trying to figure each other out and at some point something about the “love” of your life will irritate you like no other.
Like when they are brushing their teeth.
Soon after I posted this picture on Facebook, my husband noticed that I had something in my tooth.
Look hard, you will see it.
We couldn’t stop laughing that we cried.
And that is when we realized what was missing in our marriage.
Just old fashion fun.
Laughing and giggling and enjoying each other.
This trip made us realize that fun is just as important as God and family and sex.
Even sex can becomes a chore when there isn’t any fun in your marriage.
Heck, everything is a chore when no one is having fun.
We talked about the dreams we had for the future and our bucket list.
We had some serious talks to about how to keep the fun going in our marriage.
And what fun looked like to us.
Friends isn’t it so easy to do? To stop having fun.
Both of you going in different directions.
We know, my husband travels weekly.
He is off working and I am manage the house.
When we come together as a family on the weekends, we struggle to not
just worry about what needs to get done.
We fight against it all the time.
Some weekends we win and some we lose.
Put some money stress in there and health burdens and throw in some kids
with their commitments and their friends.
And life stops being fun and becomes HARD.
You stop dreaming and you start survival mode.
Just trying to make it to the next season of life instead of enjoying
How do we keep fun in our marriage?
The first thing we did when we got home was to carve out time weekly.
Let’s face it we would all love to jump on a plane and lay out on the beach every month.
But that is not realistic.
What is realistic is finding time in the week carved out for the two of you.
And guarding it with your life.
For us it changes weekly because of travel and our girls competitions but we find the time and we won’t budge. Even if that means other people get their feelings hurt.
And then define what is fun?
Some couples love to read a book together and discuss it.
Some of us love to jump in the jeep and drive around.
It can be anything from cooking together to playing golf to talking a walk.
It is something that you as a couple have to define for yourselves.
And let your heart just be.
Free from expectations and the what it should be.
Just show up and allow yourself to enjoy your spouse.